On this third anniversary of Tiller’s murder, I have been
thinking about the kinds of things that his patients and colleagues said
about him —and what sticks out the most is how so many people spoke about
Tiller’s kindness and compassion.
Kindness and compassion in the midst of legal battles,
protesters, and death threats. Not only
did Tiller provide services that few others would, but he and his staff did so
with compassion and kindness—somehow, they did not let the endless harassment
harden their hearts. Their care was
tender, but not weak—it was firm, wise, and steady. And that love, embodied in radical acts of
compassion, transformed many lives.
In the past year, I have been part of quite a few
conversations about how we in the reproductive health, rights, and justice
movements can transform ourselves into a movement that is more effective,
persuasive, and compelling. Like
Tiller, I think we need to ground ourselves and our work in a fierce and
radical love, lived out in ways small and large, within our organizations and
beyond.
In my training to work with congregations, I have been told
before one can help a congregation transform itself, one needs to love the
congregation. Before people will
honestly listen to challenging insights or feedback, we must feel cared
for. Now, I know that we progressives
really prefer to depend on cool rationality, logic, and critical analysis in
our activism—and there is no doubt that our liberal commitment to the
scientific method and fact has been a strength of our movement. Often, issues like love are one of those
things many think we should keep in the ‘private sphere.’ And, in my
experience, transformation requires more than good analysis. We humans are driven by far more basic
emotional impulses. At least, this is
what the neuroscience seems to be revealing.
Older parts of our brain, the unconscious are far more powerful in our
decision making than we ever thought.
And when it comes down to it, before we can transform, we need to feel
cared for and trust that we will be treated with a minimum level of respect.
But how do we get to this love, a Tiller kind of love, a
fierce, compassionate, kind, and transformative love? Well, here is another word we progressives
shy away from, though I know Tiller did not: faith.
Faith? Well, at this moment in time, when women, families,
and children are bearing the brunt of the burden of economic turmoil and
conservative scorn; after a hard year like 2011 when we saw unprecedented
numbers of legislation restricting women’s access to healthcare-- faith is exactly what we need. We need to have faith that despite the
dreariness of today’s situation, our efforts to create a just and compassionate
society are not in vain. And the only
way I know of growing faith is when people gather together and share about what
is most precious, hard, and wonderful in their lives. Faith grows when we invest in relationships
and community. Faith grows when we
gather together and, if only for one moment, are able to feel that we are part
of something much larger than ourselves and our egos.
As theologian Catherine Keller puts it “Faith is not about
certainty but about courage.” Facing
this past year and half, facing the morally complex issue of sex selection and
the clever “Prenatal Discrimination Act,” perhaps this will be a ‘bottom’ for
the reproductive rights, health, and justice worlds—perhaps this bottom will
compel us to try different approaches to our work. Transformation requires faith, courage, and
love. I know we liberals are people who
like to trust what we can see and touch—and yet transformation requires a
willingness to risk faith in what cannot be seen or experienced just yet.
Three years ago, Dr. George Tiller was gunned down in his
church. Tiller was a man of profound
faith—yes, he had a religious faith—but I suspect he also had faith in the
women he served and the community he served.
I share Tiller’s faith—I have faith in the reproductive rights, health,
and justice movements’ ability to evolve and transform, as well as to preserve
what is healthy and strong. I have faith
in women. I have faith in families. May we grow in faith, fierce love, and
compassion. May these faiths give us courage for transformation.
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